Dear Loveland Magazine: by Jill Gómez
In casual conversation I am discovering that politics is an uncomfortable subject for a multitude of women friends and acquaintances. I can relate. I have never felt secure speaking my mind with anyone whose political beliefs are unknown to me. It is only very recently, in the midst of this election, the "most important of our lifetime", that I have experienced an overwhelming need to come out of my protective shell.

I am surprised to learn that women in this area who voted for George W. Bush in 2000 are wavering. They are not comfortable with the direction our country has taken. They feel shaken by the events in Iraq and by the staggering evidence that war might have been avoided. Soccer moms turned security moms do not necessarily believe that this president is the only man left in the world to lead our country, no matter how much he insists. They have reminded me that some of our country’s greatest leaders, like JFK and FDR, were elected and prevailed during comparable times of instability and fear.
These women are informed. They know, deep down, that we are, in fact, less safe as a result of this war. They know that terrorists are thriving and stronger, in ever-greater numbers in and from a range of countries because of our policies in Iraq. They sense that the United States cannot really go it alone in a global world whose respect and support we have decimated and need to nurture again.
Though many of us women have been fortunate not to have been touched by the 237,000 jobs lost in Ohio since 2000, we know people who have. We know co-workers and husbands who have had the dubious privilege of traveling to India and China to interview candidates for jobs here in Cincinnati.
Women are concerned about the world our children will inherit one day. We are infuriated that decades’ worth of environmental regulations have been rolled back, canceling protection for the air we breathe and the water we drink. Corporations are no longer held to the same restrictions for keeping their environmental actions in check. We feel these wrongs in our core. We are teachers first and foremost—we spend each day pointing out the beauty of the world around us to our kids, and we feel betrayed that our government is not working hard to sustain this beauty for our children and our children’s children.
Some women have become closet questioners. They do not discuss politics with their husbands, or even their parents. They watched the debates with their loved ones, nodded and smiled in the right places as expected, and were privately thinking this: that John Kerry will be the stronger leader, able to pull the country back together. They know we need to be setting the bar higher.
These women are strong and independent, capable and organized, intelligent and intuitive, loving mothers and wives. They value harmony; they work at it without cease in their homes. They try to instill it in their children. They value truth, and know deep down, too, that this administration has not been honest with us. They yearn for a positive change in this country. When I talk to them, they are eager to have an outlet for this inner struggle between voting traditionally as lifelong, loyal republicans—and voting with their hearts and minds this one time around. Voting independently from their families. Dependent only on themselves. Secretly, of course.
We can choose to talk about this election freely with other women we trust. It’s okay to talk about the issues with friends. Real friends know it’s okay to disagree. Rules of etiquette say you should never talk about politics or religion. But, think of the women to whom you are close. Would you consider jettisoning them from your life if you discovered they might feel differently about something than you do? Neither will they. Talking with other women (it’s what we do best, isn’t it?) helps us understand different perspectives as we create a structure for our own beliefs and values.

If we are not talking now, at the brink of this important election, chances are we are not learning as much as we can about the issues themselves. We all know there is only so much to be gleaned from hearing the sound bites on TV and the radio. How the issues relate to real people that you or others know is the telling scale. And there is no substitute for reading. I have become an addict of on-line newspapers, all for free, all exposing both sides of this election in the Op-Ed sections every single day—quick and easy. NYTimes.Com. CincinnatiEnquirer.com. Listen to WNPR (91.7 fm). There are perspectives beyond those in our local papers and on TV news.
Women are nurturers, protectors of the future. We have the power to affect the legacy that we’ll be leaving to the next generations. If we desire with all our being a safer and cleaner world for our children, the respect of this globe’s nations and a more positive, hard-working leader—we will stop taking a back seat in this election, get involved and educate ourselves. There are two weeks left.
Blissfully, the voting booth is a very private place.
Jill Gómez
Loveland, Ohio
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